MY SOCIAL MEDIA EXPERIENCE
I used to have a lot of followers in a platform called As*fm before I was getting started and staying active on Instagram. People seem to like my answers and opinions on every question, that’s why I prefer to write things and I found myself the best at stating opinions. But then, I stopped using As*fm for good. I’ve never told anyone why I’m not active in that platform anymore. I just feel like to disappear and be more active on Instagram and write a blog. The reason is….
The reason is that in every day, every hour and even every minute there were tons of new questions, and tons new likes. I should’ve been feeling good about it but I turned out feeling worried because those questions mostly came from anonymous and they asked about many things.
I got a lot of weird questions day by day and they even started to ask about my physical appearance on why I look different than others, why I got tiny eyes, sharp jawline, flat nose, thick lips and even my big head. People feel like those features don’t belong on my face. Someone once told me that I look like mat, and then I googled a mat and here’s the picture of a mat and my face.
Wow, what a big imagination they got and it leaves me speechless.
I was at my lowest point in life once, thinking about what people think of me and then I asked my dad, “Why do I look like this” he got confused and he knew that something is going on, because he also knew that I’m the kind of person who has a high level of confidence since forever. I remember when I was in an elementary school, I used to volunteer myself to have a speech in front of the class and even joining the Quran reading competition (wow) (proud).
Anyway, back to the topic about my insecurity. My dad told me, “Why do you have to care about people that you don’t even know on how they think of you? Everyone is beautiful in their own way, Fira, you should’ve been proud of yourself, you don’t sell out your physical appearance to be who you are, you got amazing skills to show the world instead of using your beauty, beauty fades as the time goes by, but skill doesn’t, skill will always be by your side and it’ll always be useful either for you or people around you”, and then I smiled, and I just realized that I’m blessed with skills, I’ve studied photography for years and become photographer and also I have this life to be thankful for. Seeking for things that we don’t have is endless, but if we look around on what we already have, there are way too many things that we can be grateful for. I’m grateful for the all the physique that I have and I’m aware to not complaining about it because Allah knows best, this is the best life Allah has ever given, we just need to take care of it.
I thought to myself, why do I have to feeling down because of people who got nothing to do but criticizing others and even the physique that God has given us? What do they expect? Change my appearance? Even if I do that they’d still be bully me. The fact is, no matter how nice you are, there would still be people out there who hate you. I’m sure those hateful people are still relying on their parents’ money, becoming a burden, and they might have a lack of attention, that’s why they seeking one to become the center of it. I honestly feel bad for them, because one day they’ll regret it, when they being treated the way they used to treat others.
Sometimes, people tend to forget to use their kindness to compliment others, but if they see someone doing something that they don’t like, they will be happy to bullying, judging and spreading hates towards that person. Let me ask you this, how many times have you said nice things to others today? And how many times have you talked bad thing to others today? Why is it so easy to talk bad things to people without hesitation, embarrassing others in public or just typing hateful words on social media? rather than giving a simple nice word and compliment other even just with a simple emoji. You really got nothing to lose to compliment people instead of hating them.
If there’s a thing that we might don’t like from other people, it is better for us to tell them personally or meeting them in person, or if we don’t know them personally, we can just give them a massage or it is better for us to shut our mouth, keep it for our self because not everything has to be left said.
Lately, I’ve been doing giveaway for all of you to win an eyeshadow palette. The rule is simple, people just need to explain why they follow me on social media and give the reason why it is important to make it more positive. I got thousands of responds and I’m so happy to know that my followers are so positive and they’re not afraid to show some love, even more, they give some advices to make social media become positive. There are also people who don’t really want the price, they just be there to give a nice comment and some good advices. I feel so blessed and I want you guys to feel the same as I do, because I really respect each one of you, and you guys really have a good and kind heart, and also I hope you all will always talk nice things to other and be positive as always in the future.
I’m not perfect, no one is perfect, you can’t just tell other people to be perfect. We need to see someone from the positive side, that’s one of the reason why I’m not really open when it comes to updating content about my daily activity, a love life, friendships, just everything on social media. I just want you guys to know that I’m a blogger and I’m a photography, I want show the world what I wanted them to know, which is what I’m good at.
I hope by reading this post I could inspire you to look around and realize that a single hateful word could affect others in so many ways, so does the kind or loving word, it could brightened up everyone’s day.